Earlier this month I devoted an entire week to being especially kind to myself. I have to say it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. It sounds like it would be easy to practice kindness toward yourself, but what I realized is that we spend most of our time being unkind to ourselves.
For me it looked like this: I want to relax. I shouldn’t relax I have stuff to do. I should relax because it’s what my body needs. But what if I relaxed too much and then I can’t sleep later on.
Happy almost end of summer In the past the end of summer was very sad for me because it felt like an ending. This summer feels very different to me because it’s like a whole new beginning.
As many of you know, the last two years have been quite difficult for me. But they led to great things like a greater focus on health and learning how to use my emotions in ways that can benefit my life in positive ways.
They’ve also led to great people and experiences that may not have happened had my life [...]
I love to travel. I always have. Though it was stressful for me, I did it anyway. For me the thrill of a new adventure, seeing a new place, and being out of my comfort zone intrigued me so much that it far outweighed my fear.
But it wasn’t easy.
I did learn ways to adapt. I was always pretty good with taking flights, that didn’t seem to bother me. It was hours after the flight and diet change, I’d find myself with a belly full of a week’s worth of food or find myself in the bathroom the night before [...]
At some point in your life, you’ll need to wait for something. Whether it is moving on to the next job or being healthier, chances are it won’t happen right away.
What you decide to do with the time and waiting makes all the difference.
There were times I wanted to be perfectly healed and I wanted it to happen now. I learned that instead of focusing on what I need to happen, accepting where I was at was way more pleasurable then forcing something to happen in a time frame. It actually made my healing feel like less of a burden, [...]
Like everyone else who saw the news on Monday afternoon, I was completely shocked at what happened at the Boston Marathon. I felt sadness for the families who lost loved ones. I also found myself feeling anxious and had to rush through the streets that were full of debris from the fallen buildings. We had friends who lost family members that day. At that time we also lived in the area of New Jersey in which the anthrax mail attack happened. I remember clearly being fearful when opening up my mailbox.
I could clearly relate to what people are going [...]
In my last blog, I shared about how being in pain helped me in creating a flow in how I make time for the things that are important in my life. It meant eliminating many things that were holding me back and adding things that I never thought I would do.
I wanted to follow up by sharing with you some specific ways in which I was able to make the change from making excuses to making time.
At first, you may need to help from friends or family members who can help you in clearing out the clutter [...]
Not having the time is the number one excuse we all use when we aren’t getting the results we want. I won’t argue with the fact that our lives are jammed packed with activity. For many of my clients it’s work, kids, house chores, and the ones who don’t is time management. You can’t delete your job or kids nor can you dissolve your pain immediately, but you can manage your life differently.
I have hated systems and it felt too rigid to me to try to fit my life into such a regimented mold.
We hear often in the self-help world how important self-care is. However, we don’t do it enough and it’s because we don’t know how. I think we have a perception that there’s a right way to do self-care.
I laughed inside when my client thanked me for not telling her to do yoga and forget the fun stuff.
The interesting thing is that self-care is the fun stuff. My definition of self-care is letting yourself do what ever you want to do. If yoga, meditating, or writing endlessly in your journal about your woes is not your thing don’t do it. [...]
Resistance isn’t always bad, in fact it can teach us crucial things about what isn’t working for us. However, when it gets in the way of allowing us to accept and move forward, it needs to be released.
This came to me when I purposely avoided creating intentions and that word is: release.
When it came to me it seemed perfect. Because I realize in the last year there are a lot of things that I need to release both emotionally and physically.
Everything we hold emotionally affects us physically.
When I say that, people often get nervous and optimistic if you’re holding [...]
Laura’s approach to identifying and enjoy my current life.
Laura is a naturally insightful and supportive space for exploring the most sensitive issues. I highly recommend her to anyone who is serious about creating a happier life. She is a fabulous coach!
Laura was a gift from my daughter, literally. She thought the session would help me get through the barrage of interviews I had recently been on, but not getting the job. After years of therapy, books…
Amazing what coaching can actually do to the mind. I described the invigorating feeling to my husband takes away the pressure of instant gratification.
Laura is a warm, intelligent, and I’m betting you will too.
Martha Beck, PhDAuthor of Finding Your Own North Star, The Joy Diet, and O! Magazine Monthly Columnist
You held a safe place and helped me feel more comfortable in my body.
Gail KennyTrinidad, CA
I admit that I was apprehensive to work with a coach at first, but once we got started that apprehension went right away. I am reminded with every session as to how intuitive, genuine, and is like a l…