Do you find yourself trying really hard to be perfect during the holidays?
Are you pushing yourself to feel jolly to make it a great holiday for family and friends?
If you answered yes to either of those questions take a moment and see how your body really feels about creating the perfect holiday.
Grab pen and spend some time with these questions:
Are your IBS symptoms more severe this time of the year?
Write down what you are thinking anding your body’s response can help you change some patterns that may not be serving you.
Do you find yourself pushing away negative emotions [...]
I’ve always been a do it your selfer (not sure if that’s even word!). Fiercely independent, and at times stubborn, I always wanted to do things on my own. In the past it was difficult for me to ask for help. I always believed I could do it myself. Then along my journey I realized that trying to do it alone makes it much more difficult than it needs to be.
A part of me still thinks it’s true that you can do anything yourself, but the other part knows there’s a true power and while we can push through [...]
I hate to say it but my husband defend my excellent choice in films, on a very simple level I knew he was right.
When I was in a job I disliked I spent a lot of time focusing on the job. How was I going to leave? What else was I going to do? I spent very little time on fun because I was so busy figuring out my how. It left very little time for fun. Then I realized it was fun that was the key to figuring out what I really wanted to do. So I explored [...]
I have been out of town for a few months and off I went.
Upon arriving at my appointment I was greeted by the stylist who said hello and washed my hair. I was thinking “wow this is the most unenthusiastic hair stylist I have ever met!”
It turned out that unenthusiastic was an understatement. She only talked to me once during the entire cut. If you’re a woman you know that hair stylists are usually chatter boxes who love getting to know you. It’s part of building a relationship with their clients. Perhaps this was a bad day for this [...]
I often get e-mails from readers who want advice on how to get motivated and, it actually does take effort.
Before you get worried that I am going to give something else to add to your to-do list, take a moment and goals. They are getting in the way of creating the success that you want.
So what’s the solution? Step out of your own way and give yourself permission. Here’s how:
Allow yourself to take breaks throughout the day. Allow yourself to take a weekend off. Do these things without the guilt of feeling like you have to put every second [...]
Is your perfectionism stand full of great ideas, but they falter when making steps towards turning their ideas into actions or even sharing their ideas at the workplace. Their biggest fears lie in making mistakes that they believe will lead to criticism. A mistake, whether big or small, equals failure in their mind. Their perfectionism is literally holding them back.
Is holding a high standard for achievement,” he notes. “Maladaptive perfectionism is an external concern – wondering what other people are going to think. It’s kind of a thinking habit: ‘I made a mistake there.’ ‘Someone will notice I didn’t do [...]