Sometimes it takes the wrong thing to happen for you to understand what you need to do.
In the past my typical response to a glitch in the plan was to panic. I would worry about what I was going to do now and holding on too close to certainty.
I made some big moves lately, the kind that are life-changing and had a plan of how to ease into a transition, but when I got into the transition things didn’t go as planned. Something happened beyond my control which forced me to make tweeks to what I thought would be a [...]
“I watch her with loving sadness as she dulls her shine to please others. Will this butterfly ever soar? Will she continue to pretend she can’t fly? Her greatest life awaits this decision.” – Steve Maraboli
This quote really got me thinking this week. SO many women I work with are caught up in the act of people pleasing. I used to do the same thing even though I would never have considered myself a people pleaser.
I’ve been having lots of chats with women lately and sweet… ask yourself: do you want to please or soar in your life? What’s [...]
Are you an emotional control freak? If you said yes, don’t worry you’re not alone.
Here are 8 ways you can tame your inner control freak so you can feel amazing, create a better relationship with yourself, and be attractive to others.
1. Stop being a people pleaser. People pleasing is a sneaky way to control your own emotions. You may be feeling angry at the expectations others are putting on you, but control your anger just by saying yes. When you say no, it may feel awkward at first, but it actually frees you from controlling your emotions and what [...]
I had the pleasure of spending time with some good friends this weekend. They’re great people, generous and popping ibuprofen.
I know what it’s like to be in pain. Besides my IBS pain. I had the misfortune of being injured in both arms. It wasn’t the goes away in a few months type pain, it was the hard to diagnose really impacts your life type of pain. I spent over a year trying to get better only to find myself getting worse. After demanding more than my doctors could give me, I was finally referred to the right doctor who [...]
At the start of the New Year, we often make goals about our career, health, or relationships. Unfortunately by the end of January, too many of us give up on those goals. Not because we’re lazy or we didn’t really want the things, it’s because we don’t believe we can actually have them.
We often blame it on not enough time or discipline, when in reality it’s neither of these things. The truth is we don’t actually believe we can create what we want.
It’s okay not to believe in yourself (at least some of the time).
I spent a lot of time in the last two years wishing my life could go back to normal. Some days I longed for normal so badly that it made me cry. It wasn’t that I was just in pain from being injured in an accident; it was the frustration that I could no longer do some of the things that were normal to me.
In my career as a mind-body coach I watch people long for normal all the time. Many of my current clients suffer from IBS or digestive disorders. They talk often about wanting a normal life. [...]
Happy almost end of summer In the past the end of summer was very sad for me because it felt like an ending. This summer feels very different to me because it’s like a whole new beginning.
As many of you know, the last two years have been quite difficult for me. But they led to great things like a greater focus on health and learning how to use my emotions in ways that can benefit my life in positive ways.
They’ve also led to great people and experiences that may not have happened had my life [...]
At some point in your life, you’ll need to wait for something. Whether it is moving on to the next job or being healthier, chances are it won’t happen right away.
What you decide to do with the time and waiting makes all the difference.
There were times I wanted to be perfectly healed and I wanted it to happen now. I learned that instead of focusing on what I need to happen, accepting where I was at was way more pleasurable then forcing something to happen in a time frame. It actually made my healing feel like less of a burden, [...]
Like everyone else who saw the news on Monday afternoon, I was completely shocked at what happened at the Boston Marathon. I felt sadness for the families who lost loved ones. I also found myself feeling anxious and had to rush through the streets that were full of debris from the fallen buildings. We had friends who lost family members that day. At that time we also lived in the area of New Jersey in which the anthrax mail attack happened. I remember clearly being fearful when opening up my mailbox.
I could clearly relate to what people are going [...]
In my last blog, I shared about how being in pain helped me in creating a flow in how I make time for the things that are important in my life. It meant eliminating many things that were holding me back and adding things that I never thought I would do.
I wanted to follow up by sharing with you some specific ways in which I was able to make the change from making excuses to making time.
At first, you may need to help from friends or family members who can help you in clearing out the clutter [...]
I admit that I was apprehensive to work with a coach at first, but once we got started that apprehension went right away. I am reminded with every session as to how intuitive, genuine, and is like a l…
Melisa SharpeLos Angeles
Laura was a gift from my daughter, literally. She thought the session would help me get through the barrage of interviews I had recently been on, but not getting the job. After years of therapy, books…
Amazing what coaching can actually do to the mind. I described the invigorating feeling to my husband takes away the pressure of instant gratification.
You held a safe place and helped me feel more comfortable in my body.
Gail KennyTrinidad, CA
Laura’s approach to identifying and enjoy my current life.
Laura is a naturally insightful and supportive space for exploring the most sensitive issues. I highly recommend her to anyone who is serious about creating a happier life. She is a fabulous coach!
Laura is a warm, intelligent, and I’m betting you will too.
Martha Beck, PhDAuthor of Finding Your Own North Star, The Joy Diet, and O! Magazine Monthly Columnist