It’s not easy having IBS during Thanksgiving. Besides the fact that you are inundated with tons of different foods you are also eating in different social situations and although we love our families sometimes being with our families can be stressful. These two things combined make a bad combination for people suffering with IBS and can turn the “holiday” into a “hellday”. However, it doesn’t have to be that way, there are things you can do to enjoy this plentiful time.
If your goal is to experience a happy and healthy Thanksgiving Day here are the top five things I do [...]
Listen, are you breathing just a little and calling it a life? ~Mary Oliver
That quote from Mary Oliver really got me thinking. I often talk to my clients about the importance of breathing but I’m not always sure if they fully understand the importance of it.
For a long time I didn’t either. I would do a short meditation and take quick deep breaths if I felt stress but I really wasn’t consciously aware of how I was breathing. It was actually through the process of being in pain that I became aware of the lack of air I was [...]
I just watched the Amy Cuddy, social psychologist and assistant professor at Harvard University, video on body language.
She talked about body language and how it affects our entire lives.
It got me thinking about how body language affects our reaction to discomfort.
She discusses successful people having higher levels of testosterone and lower levels of cortisol. And how the way we posture our bodies can naturally produce these two things. So high-power poses can produce good hormones, which equals feeling confidence and success where as low power poses increases our cortisol levels, which is our stress hormone. So staying in a [...]
It seems that everyone is looking to find something to make them feel good.
This came to mind when I heard how many people are reading 50 Shades of Gray. I’m not against people reading 50 Shades of Gray but it seems like people are looking for something make themselves feel good and take them away from what’s in front of them.
We all have our share of challenges over the course of our lives. What I have learned from my clients that successfully transition themselves in moments of challenge is that they understand the difference between giving up and giving in.
I used to think I had to give up and give into situations or circumstances I was uncomfortable with. In my mind giving up and giving in were the same thing.
Then I realized that I don’t have to give up to give in. It’s actually the complete opposite
You need to give in to heal a wound, accept a situation, or [...]
How much do you ask for help from others? If you’re anything like I used to be your answer may be never.
I spent too many years doing everything myself. Taking care of my basic needs, my emotions, and stressful situations on my own. Asking for help was not something I was accustomed to doing. In fact I avoided any level of help from others because that meant vulnerability.
But avoiding that vulnerability never made me feel good. But that’s not why I avoided it; I avoided it because it felt safe. I was free from judgment, shame, or whatever negative [...]
How many times have you heard people say they perform best under pressure? In our society the idea that applying pressure to a situation will reap the best results is very prevalent. It’s such a part of our psyche that we do it subconsciously. For many of us it’s a part of life, basically second nature.
For most people with IBS when the pressure increases so does the IBS symptoms. For years I put tons of pressure on myself without noticing how intensely it was affecting my digestive problems.
I just thought pressure was a natural part of life.
When I first became a coach I worked with people who were stressed about their career. When I coach people who are dealing with a lot of stress I ask them to go into their bodies and notice where they feel stress or tension. I typically get one of two responses; either “can’t find anything”or they find aches and pains that they never knew were there. They often want to run back into their minds and discuss all of their life stresses.
I simply told them for one week try stopping once a day and notice what you are thinking [...]