Tagged: self empowerment

IBS Relief: Are You Making Time or Excuses?

IBS Relief: Are You Making Time or Excuses?

Not having the time is the number one excuse we all use when we aren’t getting the results we want. I won’t argue with the fact that our lives are jammed packed with activity. For many of my clients it’s work, kids, house chores, and the ones who don’t is time management. You can’t delete your job or kids nor can you dissolve your pain immediately, but you can manage your life differently.

 

I have hated systems and it felt too rigid to me to try to fit my life into such a regimented mold.

 

However, I’ve seen a shift in [...]

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Self-Care and IBS Relief

Self-Care and IBS Relief

We hear often in the self-help world how important self-care is. However, we don’t do it enough and it’s because we don’t know how. I think we have a perception that there’s a right way to do self-care.

 

I laughed inside when my client thanked me for not telling her to do yoga and forget the fun stuff.

 

The interesting thing is that self-care is the fun stuff. My definition of self-care is letting yourself do what ever you want to do. If yoga, meditating, or writing endlessly in your journal about your woes is not your thing don’t do it. [...]

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Body Language, Superheroes, and IBS

Body Language, Superheroes, and IBS


I just watched the Amy Cuddy, social psychologist and assistant professor at Harvard University, video on body language.

 

She talked about body language and how it affects our entire lives.

 

It got me thinking about how body language affects our reaction to discomfort.

 

She discusses successful people having higher levels of testosterone and success where as low power poses increases our cortisol levels, which is our stress hormone. So staying in a low power poses can in essence increase your stress level, which in turn decreases your sense of confidence.

 

It got me thinking about, you, my community. How do you hold yourself [...]

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Are You Giving Up or Giving In?

Are You Giving Up or Giving In?

We all have our share of challenges over the course of our lives. What I have learned from my clients that successfully transition themselves in moments of challenge is that they understand giving in.

 

I used to think I had to give up and giving in were the same thing.

 

Then I realized that I don’t have to give up to give in. It’s actually the complete opposite

 

You need to give in to heal a wound, accept a situation, or make a big change in your life.

 

Giving in doesn’t mean compromising your values, staying in bed depressed, or [...]

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Empowering Your Little Me

Empowering Your Little Me

 

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”  Anais Nin

 

I realized recently that I was still carrying a piece of that in the bud person with in me. Though I have made huge strides over the last few years there was still the part of me who wanted to hide in the shadow. Avoid discomfort, conflict, or just plain speaking my mind.

 

The thing about that little bud, that “little part of me”, that I was carrying inside was that sometimes I relied on it [...]

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Fixing Your Fa-La-La

Fixing Your Fa-La-La

It is definitely the time of year when we feel like everyone should be fa-la-laing and expect everyone to act accordingly.

 

Except they don’t.

 

And if you’re anything like me, you try to fix everything just right so everything feels good.

 

But you can’t.

 

That’s the biggest thing I’ve learned about the holidays and robs you of the present moment. It also doesn’t allow you to accept people for exactly what they are.

 

Way back, probably in your childhood, you learned if you tried really hard you could fix a situation and make everyone feel better. You may remember it [...]

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Finding Your Something Else

Finding Your Something Else

Next month marks two years since I left my safe, secure, and motivated, which made it all the more difficult because I had nowhere to place the motivation. Leaving me feeling stuck externally, but with the internal adrenaline to push forward like a horse out of the gate.

I think that internal drive is what separated me from my co-workers. I always remained highly professional and put me on the path to my next step.

I realize now the problem I was experiencing in the first several years of my career was my focus was seriously misplaced. I spent a lot [...]

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Recognizing Your Purpose

Recognizing Your Purpose

I’ve been traveling for business this week and simple with a big tip on how to view your purpose.

I spent the last three days at a business conference focused on the notion of purpose. Many clients come to because they are uncomfortable in their job or other part of their life and think it is because they don’t know their purpose. What they do know is that just because you are good at something, all the trying in the world won’t make you love it.

What stuck out in the my mind was a discussion that evolved about purpose. More [...]

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What Matters More Than the Letters After Your Name

What Matters More Than the Letters After Your Name

I met with a new client this week. Though she was new to me, her story was a familiar one that I had heard from many clients. She came to me regarding a lack of confidence in the workplace. She wanted to be more assertive and self-doubt. When I asked her why she didn’t assert herself more in the workplace she said she simply didn’t know enough. In my work with clients I have found that this is not true 99% of the time.

When I asked about her qualifications she proceeded to tell me about two very impressive degrees [...]

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The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice

     We typically live our lives in one of two ways: living a life that is dictated by unending responsibilities or living in a world that is full of abundant choices that we create. People are often shocked to find that these two places exist in the same universe. They question the fact that we have a choice because there are some things we just have to do.

 

      The biggest shift happened in my life was when I learned the power of choice. Sure we may not want to do certain things like taking out the trash or even going [...]

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