I used to be an all or nothing person and it became clear to me that there had to be another way.
I see this “all or nothing” syndrome all the time in my clients. It usually comes in two forms. The first are my clients who know exactly what they want and exhausted. They have no time or energy for what they really want. “All or nothing” is a good dream squelcher.
The good news is that there is a remedy. First and giving up too soon means we are stopping circumstances from working in our favor. This part takes [...]
We are a society of quick fixes and that it is a process.
The truth of the matter lies in looking at yourself. That’s the hardest part. Clients will come to me wanting to know what tests they can take to be told exactly what they should do and will save them a lot of time. The problem with that thinking is how you respond to a test may tell you what you are good at, but will never tell you what you really want. The people who have reached high levels of success have done so by following a [...]
When I began my training as a Career Coach, my coaching mentor told us that the key in finding your ideal career is to look back at your childhood. What did you love to do? What filled you with joy? It’s a question that I’ve attempted to answer and conformity have melted those memories into tiny drips. When you thought about it, it probably sounded like this: dancing, writing, playing, sports… so what do I do with that?
I had fallen into this small drip thinking, and what direction I now needed to go.
Take some time to spend with the [...]
You can change your life fairly quickly by using a new approaches and life. They become so desperate for change that they give up in frustration when it doesn’t happen right away.
I realized recently that change doesn’t happen until you are ready for it. How do you become ready for change? You align yourself in mind, body, and be creative. I purchased it, looked at it a few times but never read it. I mean who really has the time, right?
It finally jumped from my shelf into my hand who I am in the world.
For those of you who are [...]
I recently saw a video about Daniel Pink’s new book “Drive”. For those of you unfamiliar with Daniel Pink he is the author of several best selling books about the changing world of work and where you are going. This sense of clarity gives you the direction you need to accomplish things over the long term. So ask yourself, what’s your sentence?
The second important part of having a mission statement according to Daniel Pink is to ask yourself everyday “Was I Better Today than Yesterday?” If you take the time to ask yourself that question each day you will see [...]
It’s the beginning of another New Year. Some people may find themselves looking forward to meeting the challenges of the New Year and examine some of the career ideas you have toyed with over the years.
If you are like me, you may have tons of ideas going through your mind constantly about new projects or endeavors. Part of your challenge for this year will be to learn how to calm the clutter of ideas in your mind and learn to focus on the ideas that are truly the best fit for your individual life plan. If your problem [...]
We typically live our lives in one of two ways: living a life that is dictated by unending responsibilities or living in a world that is full of abundant choices that we create. People are often shocked to find that these two places exist in the same universe. They question the fact that we have a choice because there are some things we just have to do.
The biggest shift happened in my life was when I learned the power of choice. Sure we may not want to do certain things like taking out the trash or even going [...]
We are told from early childhood “just to be ourselves”. It’s the solution for everything from meeting new friends to getting a job. The ironic thing is that most likely very few of us are actually being ourselves. A large portion of people in the United States are all about keeping up with the Jones’. You just have to look at the mortgage crisis and know as unique individuals.
A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of listening to Michele Woodward, Master Certified Coach and life endeavors. She mentioned the phrase “Be Your Own Buddha”, meaning follow your [...]
I received a lot of positive responses to last week’s blog that focused on leaving your comfort zone. It seems that most people recognize their comfort zone and all the fear involved can be freeing. It almost feels counterintuitive, but it’s actually not. It’s actually about intuitively realizing that your comfort protects you, but doesn’t promote you.
I was working with a client recently who gave me tons of evidence that she could be successful in her career. She had already done workshops, written articles, and with only word of mouth referrals, these workshops were packed.
The fact is [...]
When looking at the goals you want to achieve and overwhelm. Why? Because in order to reach your larger goals you need to get out of your comfort zone.
I attended a goals workshop in the beginning of this year. The speaker introduced me to a concept I had already known, but for some reason at that point and limited beliefs as way to impede their own progress out of fear.
The speaker at the workshop listed the source of the next activity as unknown; then proceeded to draw a circle shape and professional growth.
When you create what appears [...]