“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin
I realized recently that I was still carrying a piece of that in the bud person with in me. Though I have made huge strides over the last few years there was still the part of me who wanted to hide in the shadow. Avoid discomfort, conflict, or just plain speaking my mind.
The thing about that little bud, that “little part of me”, that I was carrying inside was that sometimes I relied on it [...]
It is definitely the time of year when we feel like everyone should be fa-la-laing and expect everyone to act accordingly.
Except they don’t.
And if you’re anything like me, you try to fix everything just right so everything feels good.
But you can’t.
That’s the biggest thing I’ve learned about the holidays and robs you of the present moment. It also doesn’t allow you to accept people for exactly what they are.
Way back, probably in your childhood, you learned if you tried really hard you could fix a situation and make everyone feel better. You may remember it [...]
When a potential client who is interested in my services approaches me and they immediately start listing all the self-help books they have read; I become very curious. Why? It reminds me of the phenomena I notice frequently that I have coined the “boob job effect”.
The “boob job effect” is when I hear a woman saying that she has low self-esteem and increasing her breast size will give her better self-esteem. I haven’t been able to pinpoint the logic on that one.
I have nothing against self-help books or boob jobs. I think self-help books are a great resource in [...]