Not having the time is the number one excuse we all use when we aren’t getting the results we want. I won’t argue with the fact that our lives are jammed packed with activity. For many of my clients it’s work, kids, house chores, and the ones who don’t is time management. You can’t delete your job or kids nor can you dissolve your pain immediately, but you can manage your life differently.
I have hated systems and it felt too rigid to me to try to fit my life into such a regimented mold.
We hear often in the self-help world how important self-care is. However, we don’t do it enough and it’s because we don’t know how. I think we have a perception that there’s a right way to do self-care.
I laughed inside when my client thanked me for not telling her to do yoga and forget the fun stuff.
The interesting thing is that self-care is the fun stuff. My definition of self-care is letting yourself do what ever you want to do. If yoga, meditating, or writing endlessly in your journal about your woes is not your thing don’t do it. [...]
How many times have you heard people say they perform best under pressure? In our society the idea that applying pressure to a situation will reap the best results is very prevalent. It’s such a part of our psyche that we do it subconsciously. For many of us it’s a part of life, basically second nature.
For most people with IBS when the pressure increases so does the IBS symptoms. For years I put tons of pressure on myself without noticing how intensely it was affecting my digestive problems.
I just thought pressure was a natural part of life.
Money. Money. Money. I hear a lot of talk about it from my clients.
The funny thing is it’s never about the money; there is always something else lurking in the shadows.
Don’t get me wrong; I know money is essential to live. I grew up in a working class neighborhood and attended school in the inner city of Philadelphia; everyday I got glimpses of what life is like without money.
But for the majority of us who aren’t in that situation, money is an obstacle we feel we have to overcome in order to get what we want.
They want to know the best way to get a healthier body, a better mindset, a relationship, or a new job.
They believe the answer is eluding them somehow. They should know it by now.
That’s when I tell them: they do.
It’s in their body. It’s in all our bodies. We all have it in equal measure. It is our inner voice, our intuition, and our inner wisdom. Call it what you like: it’s a part of us that’s always there waiting to be listened to.
When I tell my clients that all they need to do [...]
I was walking around downtown Asheville, NC last week and don’t create the time for such a simple thing.
It’s funny when you think about it, because as a young child that is really what your life consisted of. Don’t you notice that kids have the best imaginations? They are full of fun and engaged in life.
When was the last time you felt that way?
For many of my clients it has been a long time. And even though they are beginning to create a path of change and read. We try so hard to get everything done just right, [...]
I’ve always been a do it your selfer (not sure if that’s even word!). Fiercely independent, and at times stubborn, I always wanted to do things on my own. In the past it was difficult for me to ask for help. I always believed I could do it myself. Then along my journey I realized that trying to do it alone makes it much more difficult than it needs to be.
A part of me still thinks it’s true that you can do anything yourself, but the other part knows there’s a true power and while we can push through [...]
I hate to say it but my husband defend my excellent choice in films, on a very simple level I knew he was right.
When I was in a job I disliked I spent a lot of time focusing on the job. How was I going to leave? What else was I going to do? I spent very little time on fun because I was so busy figuring out my how. It left very little time for fun. Then I realized it was fun that was the key to figuring out what I really wanted to do. So I explored [...]
Next month marks two years since I left my safe, secure, and motivated, which made it all the more difficult because I had nowhere to place the motivation. Leaving me feeling stuck externally, but with the internal adrenaline to push forward like a horse out of the gate.
I think that internal drive is what separated me from my co-workers. I always remained highly professional and put me on the path to my next step.
I realize now the problem I was experiencing in the first several years of my career was my focus was seriously misplaced. I spent a lot [...]
Laura was a gift from my daughter, literally. She thought the session would help me get through the barrage of interviews I had recently been on, but not getting the job. After years of therapy, books…
You held a safe place and helped me feel more comfortable in my body.
Gail KennyTrinidad, CA
Laura’s approach to identifying and enjoy my current life.
Amazing what coaching can actually do to the mind. I described the invigorating feeling to my husband takes away the pressure of instant gratification.
I admit that I was apprehensive to work with a coach at first, but once we got started that apprehension went right away. I am reminded with every session as to how intuitive, genuine, and is like a l…
Melisa SharpeLos Angeles
Laura is a naturally insightful and supportive space for exploring the most sensitive issues. I highly recommend her to anyone who is serious about creating a happier life. She is a fabulous coach!
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Martha Beck, PhDAuthor of Finding Your Own North Star, The Joy Diet, and O! Magazine Monthly Columnist