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Recognizing Your Purpose

Recognizing Your Purpose

I’ve been traveling for business this week and simple with a big tip on how to view your purpose.

I spent the last three days at a business conference focused on the notion of purpose. Many clients come to because they are uncomfortable in their job or other part of their life and think it is because they don’t know their purpose. What they do know is that just because you are good at something, all the trying in the world won’t make you love it.

What stuck out in the my mind was a discussion that evolved about purpose. More [...]

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Creating Inner Freedom

Creating Inner Freedom

The concept of going to extreme measures to find yourself has always been a mystery to me. I am always curious about why people think they have to sit in hot tents after fasting (James Arthur Ray style) or walk over hot coals to be enlightened. The most adventurous go on a long journey throughout the desert with no water. They all do it to prove that they can overcome their fears and the anxiety created by situations that most people would never attempt.

There’s a reason why most of us wouldn’t do it: it hurts!

I’ve never done those things [...]

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When Your Thoughts Go Wild

When Your Thoughts Go Wild

Here’s just a few thoughts I have heard from my clients this week:

I hate my job and it is ruining my life.

I can’t have any fun unless I am pain free.

I am worthless because I haven’t written a best selling novel.

I can’t be happy unless… insert any situation here.

These thoughts can drive you crazy, if you let them.

I like to call this thoughts gone wild syndrome. It starts with one self-defeating thought and then it turns into mind swirl so huge that you feel depressed in about 5 minutes because you’ve already created a full-blown personal catastrophe. At that [...]

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5 Ways to Move from Wanting to Getting

5 Ways to Move from Wanting to Getting

Here’s a short and towards joy.

1. Rest: The most important thing we can do to nourish our mind and your thoughts about what you can accomplish.

2. Change Your Thinking: Instead of focusing on why you can’t do something, change the wording. Focus on how you can do it.

3. Create Habits: Identify what activities you need daily to live your optimal life. Create habits that incorporate these activities into your everyday routine.

4. Add Fun: Adding a fun activity to your daily routine, even if it is just 5 minutes, will enhance your mood and tension, as well as promoting [...]

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Need Clarity? Start Complaining

Need Clarity? Start Complaining

“So it’s okay to be unhappy?” a client recently asked me. Yes, yes, and completely unrealistic, I thought. Law of attraction is a great tool, but it requires you to be real about your emotions.

Sadly too many of us believe that we have to be solely focused on being nice, responsible, and doing the right thing. In the process we ignore our true feelings. And not only do we ignore them, when they resurface we dismiss the emotions completely as if it’s a bad germ we’re afraid to catch. The problem with that kind of thinking is it leads [...]

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Add a Little Drama

Add a Little Drama

As a recovering perfectionist, I felt very tickled when I heard this line from the movie Letters from Juliet: “Saying I’m a perfectionist, is just another way of saying: I’m too chicken to do it”. I can laugh at this now, because I see it’s the truth. And that’s not say that I never fall back into my perfectionist a.k.a. chicken ways, it just means I become aware of it when it happens.

If you’re right smack dab in the middle of perfectionism’s sticky web, it may take some time to pry its tangled web from you.

My suggestion is simple: [...]

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Creating Boundaries

Creating Boundaries


I have been out of town for a few months and off I went.

Upon arriving at my appointment I was greeted by the stylist who said hello and washed my hair. I was thinking “wow this is the most unenthusiastic hair stylist I have ever met!”

It turned out that unenthusiastic was an understatement. She only talked to me once during the entire cut. If you’re a woman you know that hair stylists are usually chatter boxes who love getting to know you. It’s part of building a relationship with their clients. Perhaps this was a bad day for this [...]

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An Act of Personal Bravery

An Act of Personal Bravery

Bravery, it’s a big word. At least I thought it was. Then I noticed during my time in Texas that people were using it often and directing it at me. At first I was kind of shocked by it, but then I realized it’s all in the way you perceive it.

To me, bravery meant performing a huge, courageous act like fighting in a war or escaping from an oppressive regime. All the things Hollywood movies are made of. That’s what bravery meant to me.

Then I began to understand it in a much smaller, simpler way.

I moved to Texas alone [...]

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Art, Expectations, and Your Body

Art, Expectations, and Your Body

I recently watched an interview with James Frey, author of “A Million Little Pieces”. Oprah was interviewing him a few years after their fall out over the truthiness issue.

Frye was sharing how he had written “A Million Little Pieces” by sitting alone in a room everyday for 9 to 10 years writing. Initially upon hearing that my thought was “torture!” Then he went on to say it was like complete freedom. Huh? He wrote about whatever he wanted to write about in any way he felt like writing it. There were no rules and no one telling him what [...]

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What Matters More Than the Letters After Your Name

What Matters More Than the Letters After Your Name

I met with a new client this week. Though she was new to me, her story was a familiar one that I had heard from many clients. She came to me regarding a lack of confidence in the workplace. She wanted to be more assertive and self-doubt. When I asked her why she didn’t assert herself more in the workplace she said she simply didn’t know enough. In my work with clients I have found that this is not true 99% of the time.

When I asked about her qualifications she proceeded to tell me about two very impressive degrees [...]

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