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When You Find Yourself Trying to Fix Someone Else’s Anger

Laura Tirello — Wed, 22 Mar 2017 19:42:42 +0000

Do you know that trying to manage other people’s emotions has a damaging effect on your body?

If you find yourself people pleasing and stop allowing other peoples anger have an effect on you.

Your anger is not my problem.

For as long as I can remember I have had a highly attuned sense to people’s emotions. Between family and friends I have been around more than a fair share of angry people. What I didn’t realize is that I was part of the problem.

I tried to fix their anger because it made me uncomfortable. This fixing behavior caused me boat loads of [...]

Turning Panic Into Power

Laura Tirello — Sun, 25 May 2014 17:27:08 +0000

Sometimes it takes the wrong thing to happen for you to understand what you need to do.

In the past my typical response to a glitch in the plan was to panic. I would worry about what I was going to do now and holding on too close to certainty.

I made some big moves lately, the kind that are life-changing and had a plan of how to ease into a transition, but when I got into the transition things didn’t go as planned. Something happened beyond my control which forced me to make tweeks to what I thought would be a [...]

8 Ways To Tame Your Inner Emotional Control Freak

Laura Tirello — Wed, 26 Mar 2014 14:37:47 +0000

Are you an emotional control freak? If you said yes, don’t worry you’re not alone.

Here are 8 ways you can tame your inner control freak so you can feel amazing, create a better relationship with yourself, and be attractive to others.

1. Stop being a people pleaser. People pleasing is a sneaky way to control your own emotions. You may be feeling angry at the expectations others are putting on you, but control your anger just by saying yes. When you say no, it may feel awkward at first, but it actually frees you from controlling your emotions and what [...]

Emotional Control Freak

Laura Tirello — Wed, 12 Mar 2014 21:41:20 +0000

I am an emotional control freak.

It sounds funny to say but it’s true. It also feels a little scary to say, because by announcing it I am losing some of that control.

I have spent the majority of my life controlling my emotions and/or pretending they don’t even exist.

My preferred method of escape is just to avoid. I’ve had quite a number of traumatic things (as many of us have) happen to me throughout my life and move on.

It’s quite amazing when I recall how many traumatic and felt lots of internal turmoil, which I also ignored.

It’s amazing how a [...]

Are You Too Stubborn to Get Well?

Laura Tirello — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 18:03:10 +0000

I had the pleasure of spending time with some good friends this weekend. They’re great people, generous and popping ibuprofen.

I know what it’s like to be in pain. Besides my IBS pain. I had the misfortune of being injured in both arms. It wasn’t the goes away in a few months type pain, it was the hard to diagnose really impacts your life type of pain. I spent over a year trying to get better only to find myself getting worse. After demanding more than my doctors could give me, I was finally referred to the right doctor who [...]

Kindness and the Restless Mind

Laura — Fri, 22 Nov 2013 21:09:44 +0000

Earlier this month I devoted an entire week to being especially kind to myself. I have to say it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. It sounds like it would be easy to practice kindness toward yourself, but what I realized is that we spend most of our time being unkind to ourselves.

For me it looked like this: I want to relax. I shouldn’t relax I have stuff to do. I should relax because it’s what my body needs. But what if I relaxed too much and then I can’t sleep later on.

I been taking a lot [...]

Letting Go of Normal

Laura Tirello — Thu, 12 Sep 2013 21:14:35 +0000

I spent a lot of time in the last two years wishing my life could go back to normal. Some days I longed for normal so badly that it made me cry. It wasn’t that I was just in pain from being injured in an accident; it was the frustration that I could no longer do some of the things that were normal to me.

In my career as a mind-body coach I watch people long for normal all the time. Many of my current clients suffer from IBS or digestive disorders. They talk often about wanting a normal life. [...]

Navigating New Beginnings for Better Health

Laura — Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:37:00 +0000

Happy almost end of summer In the past the end of summer was very sad for me because it felt like an ending. This summer feels very different to me because it’s like a whole new beginning.

As many of you know, the last two years have been quite difficult for me. But they led to great things like a greater focus on health and learning how to use my emotions in ways that can benefit my life in positive ways.

They’ve also led to great people and experiences that may not have happened had my life [...]

IBS Relief: What to Do When You’re Waiting

Laura — Tue, 28 May 2013 23:31:57 +0000

At some point in your life, you’ll need to wait for something. Whether it is moving on to the next job or being healthier, chances are it won’t happen right away.

What you decide to do with the time and waiting makes all the difference.

There were times I wanted to be perfectly healed and I wanted it to happen now. I learned that instead of focusing on what I need to happen, accepting where I was at was way more pleasurable then forcing something to happen in a time frame. It actually made my healing feel like less of a burden, [...]

Why Connection Is Important For IBS Relief

Laura — Wed, 17 Apr 2013 15:47:42 +0000

Like everyone else who saw the news on Monday afternoon, I was completely shocked at what happened at the Boston Marathon. I felt sadness for the families who lost loved ones. I also found myself feeling anxious and had to rush through the streets that were full of debris from the fallen buildings. We had friends who lost family members that day. At that time we also lived in the area of New Jersey in which the anthrax mail attack happened. I remember clearly being fearful when opening up my mailbox.

I could clearly relate to what people are going [...]