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When You Find Yourself Trying to Fix Someone Else’s Anger

Laura Tirello — Wed, 22 Mar 2017 19:42:42 +0000

Do you know that trying to manage other people’s emotions has a damaging effect on your body?

If you find yourself people pleasing and stop allowing other peoples anger have an effect on you.

Your anger is not my problem.

For as long as I can remember I have had a highly attuned sense to people’s emotions. Between family and friends I have been around more than a fair share of angry people. What I didn’t realize is that I was part of the problem.

I tried to fix their anger because it made me uncomfortable. This fixing behavior caused me boat loads of [...]

Turning Panic into Power Free Call

Laura Tirello — Tue, 10 Jun 2014 00:43:07 +0000

I wanted to share with you an email I received recently that made me cry…I received an email from a person who read one of my articles on a website I write for. In the e-mail she was asking for advice about a relationship that she was in. She was experiencing a lot of self sabotage and straight out drama.

When I got to the part where she described herself as a low value woman, it brought tears to my eyes. The biggest thing I know about women is that if they don’t have a high value for themselves, they [...]

Turning Panic Into Power

Laura Tirello — Sun, 25 May 2014 17:27:08 +0000

Sometimes it takes the wrong thing to happen for you to understand what you need to do.

In the past my typical response to a glitch in the plan was to panic. I would worry about what I was going to do now and holding on too close to certainty.

I made some big moves lately, the kind that are life-changing and had a plan of how to ease into a transition, but when I got into the transition things didn’t go as planned. Something happened beyond my control which forced me to make tweeks to what I thought would be a [...]

Do You Want To Please Or Soar?

Laura Tirello — Wed, 09 Apr 2014 15:16:02 +0000

“I watch her with loving sadness as she dulls her shine to please others. Will this butterfly ever soar? Will she continue to pretend she can’t fly? Her greatest life awaits this decision.” – Steve Maraboli

This quote really got me thinking this week. SO many women I work with are caught up in the act of people pleasing. I used to do the same thing even though I would never have considered myself a people pleaser.

I’ve been having lots of chats with women lately and sweet… ask yourself: do you want to please or soar in your life? What’s [...]

8 Ways To Tame Your Inner Emotional Control Freak

Laura Tirello — Wed, 26 Mar 2014 14:37:47 +0000

Are you an emotional control freak? If you said yes, don’t worry you’re not alone.

Here are 8 ways you can tame your inner control freak so you can feel amazing, create a better relationship with yourself, and be attractive to others.

1. Stop being a people pleaser. People pleasing is a sneaky way to control your own emotions. You may be feeling angry at the expectations others are putting on you, but control your anger just by saying yes. When you say no, it may feel awkward at first, but it actually frees you from controlling your emotions and what [...]

Emotional Control Freak

Laura Tirello — Wed, 12 Mar 2014 21:41:20 +0000

I am an emotional control freak.

It sounds funny to say but it’s true. It also feels a little scary to say, because by announcing it I am losing some of that control.

I have spent the majority of my life controlling my emotions and/or pretending they don’t even exist.

My preferred method of escape is just to avoid. I’ve had quite a number of traumatic things (as many of us have) happen to me throughout my life and move on.

It’s quite amazing when I recall how many traumatic and felt lots of internal turmoil, which I also ignored.

It’s amazing how a [...]

Are You Too Stubborn to Get Well?

Laura Tirello — Thu, 30 Jan 2014 18:03:10 +0000

I had the pleasure of spending time with some good friends this weekend. They’re great people, generous and popping ibuprofen.

I know what it’s like to be in pain. Besides my IBS pain. I had the misfortune of being injured in both arms. It wasn’t the goes away in a few months type pain, it was the hard to diagnose really impacts your life type of pain. I spent over a year trying to get better only to find myself getting worse. After demanding more than my doctors could give me, I was finally referred to the right doctor who [...]

Seven Ways to Cultivate the Practice of Belief

Laura Tirello — Mon, 06 Jan 2014 16:34:11 +0000

At the start of the New Year, we often make goals about our career, health, or relationships. Unfortunately by the end of January, too many of us give up on those goals. Not because we’re lazy or we didn’t really want the things, it’s because we don’t believe we can actually have them.

We often blame it on not enough time or discipline, when in reality it’s neither of these things. The truth is we don’t actually believe we can create what we want.

It’s okay not to believe in yourself (at least some of the time).

I know we hear a [...]

Letting Go of Normal

Laura Tirello — Thu, 12 Sep 2013 21:14:35 +0000

I spent a lot of time in the last two years wishing my life could go back to normal. Some days I longed for normal so badly that it made me cry. It wasn’t that I was just in pain from being injured in an accident; it was the frustration that I could no longer do some of the things that were normal to me.

In my career as a mind-body coach I watch people long for normal all the time. Many of my current clients suffer from IBS or digestive disorders. They talk often about wanting a normal life. [...]